This morning as I was catching up on some blog reading, I came across a post over on Butch Wonders that got me thinking about being Butch in the business world. There’s a part in the post where she talks about her supervisor telling her that she will never attain a position of power if she “keeps dressing like a dude”.
In other words, Butches will never attain positions of power within business unless they conform to the current idea of gender stereotypes.
Why?! I mean, really! I understand that the business world is still part of the ‘old boys’ network and that women are still struggling to reach equality with men. I understand that’s where we are but what I don’t understand is why that is where we are. Still. It’s 2011, not 1950! How much longer is it going to take for us, as humans, to evolve past this antiquated way of thinking?
Just because I dress in men's clothes, I cannot ever attain a position of power. Does that sentence even make sense to you? If it does, please explain it to me. It doesn’t matter how smart I am or how well I do my job or how passionate I am about my job, what matters most to you are the clothes I choose to wear to work? Why is it my job to make you feel comfortable?
Talk about the ultimate in co-dependency!
It’s your job to figure out how to be comfortable with me and it’s my job to figure out how to be comfortable with myself. It works both ways, too, because it's also my job to figure out how to be comfortable with you. My stuff is my stuff and your stuff is your stuff.
The gender binary is out dated. Download the latest version and move on. You just might end up with a business dynamo at the helm of your business ship who will take you to the depths of success you never even thought was possible regardless of what sort of clothes they, or you, come to work in.
Of course, the ‘you’s in the statements above were not aimed at ‘you’, the reader. Unless you do still think this way, then yes, I am talkin’ to you.