As I'm standing in front of the 'Grab & Go' case the woman stocking the case asks me, "Am I in your way Sir?" Immediately I think, "Should I say anything or just nod? I'm just not in the mood for profuse apologies." Speaking would more likely get them whereas just nodding would let the moment pass peacefully. I found myself saying, in somewhat of a deeper voice then I actually have, "Oh no. I'm just not sure what I want." Then my hand went up to my chest and I sort of beat on it with a flat palm. You know how guys do sometimes? Almost like I was beating on my chest because my voice didn't sound right. Like I had a cold or something. Or it was some sort of primal Tarzan thing. Who knows?
Her response to me was simply, "Ok. Let me know if I can move out of your way or get you anything." I thank her and go about grabbing my food, paying for it and walking out of the store. All the while thinking, "I just passed for a guy even after I spoke. Cool!"
Why was it cool? I'm not a trans guy so I'm not really trying to pass as a guy but there have been times when passing was just easier and most definitely safer. On this occasion, though, I think it was more about affirming my masculinity.
I have to say, it felt pretty damn good.
Congrats, sir!
ReplyDeleteMust be somethin' in the air, I just put up a post about the opposite situation in my own life... hm...
HA! I just read your post! There must be something in the air!
ReplyDeleteWith the exception of the bathroom scene, I would rather stay under the radar and go with the flow. Now the apologies bother me more than being called sir. Plus, I can't help to think I'm getting away with something too, so yes, it's kinda cool.
ReplyDeleteI hear ya! It's the apologies that really bother me. They really don't have to apologize because, really, if I didn't want to be called 'sir' I'd grow my hair out and start wearing dresses.
ReplyDeletevery cool.. I think you were right to just go with it, since it didn't offend your sense of identity. very cool very cool
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